Three Ways to Rewrite Your Relationship with Money


You don't have to carry the same relationship you have with your finances from today into tomorrow. Try to take the time and re-write how you and money see each other – literally. Whether you want to clear out past grievances, remind yourself of positive financial decisions, or restart your approach to its presence in your life, a pen and paper may do the trick. How do you hold space for your finances? Explore these approaches below.


Let go of past purchases

If there’s a past purchase that you’re not proud of, let it go by writing it out. You can write it a letter that highlights the difficult emotions that you feel and “mail it” by sending it to the trash, or, you can jot down more about the moment as a form of stream of consciousness and symbolically burn it (safely, please) to release it from your thoughts. By letting go of the mistakes of your past, you can start creating new money-positive habits to carry you forward.


Remind yourself of purchases that bring you joy

Make a list of what you’ve spent money on recently that’s brought you joy. Whether indulgent and lavish, or small and simple, treat each equally. Note if you shared that purchase with someone, and whether that affects what goes to the top of the list. Then, write down why it brought you joy – as many reasons as you can think. Practice this without judgement or shame, and refer back to it often to remind yourself of the abundance you’ve collected in your life.


Write a letter to the money you don’t have

Many of us treat money like an annoying neighbor; someone that we dislike being around, tolerate only because we must, and wish they’d just stay quiet and fall into place. Our subconscious relationship with money can affect how it manifests in our life, so we have to be careful with how we hold space for it in our everyday lives. Try sitting down and writing money a letter. Notice the tone that you carry, the words you use, and how the practice feels. If you’re not personally satisfied with the outcome, perhaps try again. Imagine you’re writing to someone you love, adore and/or respect. See if that shifts how you feel.

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